For or Against?

For or Against?
This usually applies in the most recent English course I underwent (note the wrong usage of the previous word). To support or to oppose a specific topic.

For example:

Abortion is widely accepted by Western culture. Chinese eat less potatoes than non-Chinese. A watermelon usually does not fall far from the watermelon tree, albeit the fact that they are vines as a matter of fact. East prevails over West in a game of mahjong.
Extracting information from the above text, what is your opinion for or against the argument?

Except that there is no argument. Or logic at all. Bad example.

Anyhow, I would never allow free English lessons in my blog, so why did I choose this title?

Because "For or Against" may be used as a form of motivation. Seriously at times, although I am trying to be more prominent-like and confident of myself, some of the ideas I bubble up seem really weird.

As weird as the fact that the weirdness of this statement which is not weird but intended to be. Hmm, go figure.

Relating a phrase that involves supporting or opposing with Motivation and the end product is..
(I usually never use more than one dots in conjunction, it seems really juvenile at times!)

Motivation by supporting or opposing! (My kindergarden teacher's definitely proud of me)
To do things to achieve bigger cause or to do things to avoid a certain cause.

But in most context, it is not really to avoid something but rather to go against something. Hard to explain without examples. Then again, my examples are so vague they require more examples that, in the end, needs not only your eyes, body and soul, but my brain as well because my thoughts are only understood by an elite few and oh my goodness what a long sentence!

Ahem, about the example mentioned in the previous paragraph, here goes:
You really hate another person and want that person to suffer for all the things that he/she (usually she, I'm so sorry) has done to/for/against/with you. So you decide to make that person suffer by:

• Telling the person off, hoping that she/he (notice she comes before he!) has some tiny bit of conscience left and she/he feels bad leading to things worse than just feeling bad; eg. head-banging, cursing, carving of appendages and at best, suicide.
  (mind you, I am not a sadist)
• Emo-ing. Surprisingly, this is the number one option many of us tend to do. But it really is pointless. Maybe I would write about this, another time though.
• The third and most viable choice would be to:
  Improve ourselves in order to make the other person feel crummy as compared to the status that you have. To stand tall over another person and just, well, laugh at her/him.
  
  To do this third choice, is what I mean by doing things to go against something. Sort of.
  

And well, this concludes my explanation about how to do things against other things.

But coming to an actual point of realisation (where actual facts do count), it is entirely not possible to do things that are against things, because in essence, you are still doing things.

Because to do something for a reason is what most normal people (quote normal people, not me) do and practice throughout their crummy lives. They live up to expectations, work towards goals and hope that their dreams come true.

Which is what I do as well.
Which is what makes me not not a normal person, makes me not abnormal, makes me normal.

Which sucks.


Thinking back, it seems I wrote this post in a fit of rage, well as opposed to a fit of happiness, as the entire post goes about bashing certain issues. It seems so bleak. So negative.

The best way to relate to what I tried to convey above is to ask yourself, why are you doing certain things?

Most of the time, it would be because you wanted to or rather there is a greater benefit or bigger aim behind it.

But for those rare cases, it would be because you hate a specific thing, be it a person or a situation you are in. Angst. Dissatisfaction. Hate.
Born through these evil intentions are the actions that bear the most meaning in your life.
Actions that make or break you.

And it is this radical motivation which I seek.

Pursuit of Happiness

My title does not refer to the Will Smith movie, which evidently has a spelling mistake quite a number of people fail to realise.

Instead, I refer it to my expanding sub-section of this blog related to motivation. Because I feel that I lack it, and instead of just moping around wishing things would get better, I blog about it. (which apparently may or may not be the same thing)

In one way or another, we usually do things for self-benefit. But these things in mind are just general things, simple life processes and others that encompass menial tasks and nothing that holds long lasting effects.

On the other hand, things that actually allow one to improve oneself are usually unnecessary. Extra. By the way. Would you like fries with that? Something around those lines, pretty much.

And with that in mind, looking at another extreme end of the spectrum lies things that are both unnecessary to accomplish and have unnecessary effects on one's being. Considering that they would be more are more posts regarding this issue of "Motivation", it would be a good idea to start from extreme cases.

Something like learning to swim in the deep end of a swimming pool as compared to the shallow end.
Something like sometimes it's best to learn to run in order to learn to walk.
Which both make no sense anyway.

Do take a mental note that whatever I post, will always have some weird sense of sense in the end. Even if it would be nonsense, it would still be sensible sense. Why?
Because I can. I can make anything and everything seem relevant given the proper lighting, angles and colours. With my reasoning that is.

Anyhow, back to the pursuit of happiness.

It is in this neverending escapade of ours that entails us to keep going after: (here's the bomb)
Things that give us fun. Things that make us happy.

Wow, genius, so damn innovative.
We keep going after things that are fun and happy, ohh right, such a great insight as compared to what? Going after things that hurt us? Going after things that give us pain?

Unless you tend to show sadistic, or even worse masochistic, qualities, and also unless you tend to have certain fetishes I do not intend to get into, then NO, we do not want pain.

(the above two paragraphs belong to a severe case of stray thoughts)

I feel pretty sure that this specific phenomena occurs to a lot of us, us being those in my generation. Not really adults, not really kids. Not so much teens anymore that is. And this aforementioned phenomena relates to our hedonistic behaviour. Addiction to fun.

For me, alot of days go by and at the end of them, I realise I achieved pretty much nothing. Zero sum game. What have I been doing with my time? Burning it away, trying to latch on this fun-train. Do you think this happens to you?

Now while this sounds all doomy and gloomy, it certain cases, it may prove to be a blessing instead of a curse. Choosing which fun-train we chase dictates the direction and channeling of our time. Therefore, choose a fun-train that benefits you.

Which is what I am trying to do.

At first, it may seem impossible and pointless to do so. But even with a little willpower, certain things our of sight and definitely out of mind tend to materialise.

I dropped certain activities that have been absorbing the vast majority of time for other activities that in the end, only absorbed a tiny bit of my time. The process of diverting out time into other activities seemed more tedious and hard.

But hey, writing this blog post itself is a living testament that I am slowly but surely succeeding. Because I beleive that this activity would hold far more benefits in the long run as compared to what I normally do.

And taking me as an example, inductively, anyone and everyone can do the same.
Unless you are a super-achiever who has more hobbies than the number of fingers and toes combined and/or multiplied, it may occur to you that your life could be more.

That your life could have more lighting. More angles. More colours.

And this I am able to do with my thoughts, and hence publish long-winded posts that hold tiny bits of actual information.

And in the case of this post, the actual information is:
Your life sucks, get a new one.